"...is a big girl" is 20th [or even 19th] - century thinking, Ian...men who aren't in touch with their feminine side are, as you must have noticed, very prone to macho posturing and acting-out.
I hear also that people [not just men] who can't or won't cry are statistically
much more liable to episodes of extreme violence/self-harm.
The story sounds great, where is it to be found? Harry/Hermione is obviously a deep-rooted longing in the HP community, even I as a near-total noob felt it; JK Rowling is perhaps straining against the obvious, there.
[Later] OK, found it. I probably should have more context before starting it, but...ahh, what the hell.
"To learn who rules over you, simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize" - Voltaire